The Rookery

To See a Child one Must Look Long

This whole week as I prepare to write narratives, the first lines of William Blake's "Auguries of Innocence" have been on repeat in my head:

To see a World in a Grain of Sand

And a Heaven in a Wild Flower 

Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand 

And Eternity in an hour

I'll be honest - I wasn't sure why they were on repeat but it was better than the Bon Jovi song that had been there the week before so I embraced the change.  But today, as I sat down to write, Blake's words revealed their relevance.

 

Writing narratives is a gift of time with each child.  As I write, I hold them up, consider them, rotate them in my palm, if you will.  Inevitably, moments of learning, small triumphs and little jokes - long forgotten in the bustle of the school day - bubble back to the surface.  I often chuckle out loud or have a sudden revelation as the pieces fall into place.  And, by the time I am finished, I know a child better than when I had started.

 

And that is where the value of narratives lie for a progressive educator.  Not in the recording - although that is important, too, especially in the absence of traditional (superficial) measures like grades - but in the understanding.  Through collecting these moments and writing about them, I come to see a child so much more clearly.  The once disparate details coalesce into an understandable whole and patterns reveal themselves.  When I am finished, I see new ways forward and have a new respect for the journey the child has been on already.

 

We often talk about "formative assessment" at Prairie Creek.  We use assessments to chart the next instruction for a child.  Perhaps it's a reading assessment or a math "share what you can do so far" activity that tells us what the next week's work will be.  But we rarely talk about narratives as formative assessments.  In many places, they would be "summative assessments" - a wrap up and report of what a child has learned.  But, for me at least, writing a narrative uncovers where a child is heading by looking at where they've been.  I discover so much when writing them.  It shapes the work to come and, in a progressive setting where we create authentic work for kids, knowing them so deeply is vital.

 

Is it a lot of work?  Sure. But knowing students is the work of teaching.  I emerge from narrative writing so connected with my students and so excited to launch into the months ahead.  It truly is a labor of love.

First Days...a Heron lens

We have a shared blog this year - but I realized as I was writing and placing in pictures that there will be moments, many moments, that are the Heron's alone (just as there will be Kestrel and Robin moments that are not duplicated in our classroom.). I'll use this blog to share some of those moments (and pictures!).  The Blue Herons were amazing this past week - they truly rose to the moment and met the year with excitement and joy.  I can't wait to welcome the Green Herons tomorrow. Here are some more Heron pics from our first days together.  Remember not to share any photos of children other than your own on social media.  Thank you!

Frankie, our friend from Done Right Foods. We were so excited to see him again.

 

 

Bringing Failure to the Forefront

About two weeks ago, I listened to a remembrance of a front line worker who had died of Covid 19.  Yves-Emmanuel Segui was a pharmacist in Yonkers, New York.  Originally certified as a pharmacist in the Ivory Coast, Mr. Sequi had worked very hard to both learn English and pass the pharmacy certification test in the U.S.  His daughter remembered when he first took the certification test and failed.  He took the letter, marked it with a "Number 1" and put it on the refrigerator.  When the second failure letter came, he marked that with a 2 and posted it along with the first. This continued again and again and again until he received "the one where it says, congratulations. You passed."

What struck me as remarkable was the way he displayed his failure publicly.  I think our human nature is the opposite - we tend to tuck away those letters if we save them at all.  But Mr. Segui shared his openly.  His daughter remembered the story vividly, inspired by his tenacious spirit and his determination to help people.  I was struck by this too, but I think it's stuck with me for another reason.

This spring, while we were distance learning, I was desperate to see students fail. When we are in a classroom together, I see all of the micro-steps of learning which necessarily involve failure.  (As they hear all the time, "If you haven't failed, you haven't learned."). But online, they weren't there for me to watch.  I didn't see the failure. I wasn't there to diagnose what was hard and support them with encouragement and more teaching.  Once in a while, a child would come to the zoom room because they were confused but, I think more often, when kids encountered something hard or new they shrugged and... stopped.

My colleagues teaching younger grades shared that they sensed parent anxiety when children were turning things in with incorrect spelling or other errors.  Families were expending a lot of energy getting their kids to perfect before the work got shared back with the teacher.  After all, we are programmed as a society that "doing well" is "getting it right."  It's really hard to not "help" a child by correcting their work.

One of the things I've been thinking a lot about for our distance learning scenario is how to capture failure.  What I need is a virtual refrigerator where kids are posting their fails.  The things that don't make sense.  The things that are hard.  Instead, so many of the tools on-line are geared toward finished products - not the messy middles.

The need to see failure goes beyond the superficial "celebration of failure" - how we fail determines the next steps for learning. One of the things I ask when a student is wrong or stuck is "tell me what you are thinking."  That's how we glean the information we need to chart a course through failure.  If distance learning is to be successful, it must have tools that illuminate what's hard, not just report what is done.

No small task - but one that I think is do-able, especially given the chance to develop our online community together from scratch.  We'll have a chance to determine together that learning online doesn't just mean getting it right - it means figuring out how to learn from what's wrong.

The Summer Ahead - What To Do?

So, we're one week in to summer and I just walked into my living room to find two children sprawled out on the floor, their screen time exhausted and their day stretching before them.  What to do?

This is an unusual summer (understatement, I know).  We are coming off of two and a half months of distance learning and lurching into three months of summer in which most if not all camps have been cancelled or put on-line.  Biking to a friends or the pool or the playground - if it was even an option before - is now much more problematic and there are only so many times you can say, "Why don't you walk the dog?" before even the dog starts to roll their eyes.

I have a few thoughts -- but know that, with my parent hat on, I'm trying to figure this out, too.

Schedule

Set up a rough schedule with your child that includes wake up time, meal times, screen times, project times (perhaps when you are available) and active times.  They are old enough to plan outings, too.  The schedule should definitely include chores and tidying up times (especially after those projects!). Social times with relatives and friends are also something kids can look forward to (and take more coordination with others).  Have them cook a meal or two every week as part of the schedule.

Summer Academic Work

Normally, I suggest reading every day and reviewing some math facts/playing with math ideas on a regular basis.  Summer is the time to muck around and get a little bored.  It's a time to recharge.  But this year, with the spring disruption of our regular academic work, I'm recommending some additional academic work.  I'm sending out a summer learning grid every week that has articles to read, math games to play, and lots of making/experimenting ideas.  I'll send it to the students and carbon copy you - I'd like this to be their summer work. The idea is not to do everything on the grid but to keep things fresh and different.  Summer slump always happens to kids - they lose some of that hard fought learning over the summer.  I would like to minimize that.

At the very least, students should read at least a half hour a day and, ideally, be read to for fifteen minutes to a half hour.  Students should also continue to work on their math fact fluency.  I will share a blog post next week on ways to work on fact fluency with your child.  

Chores

I mentioned this already but it bears repeating.  Students this age need to be contributing to the work of the household.  They are old enough to be really helpful and they also like to be needed (even if they complain at first.). In our house, most chores are not compensated with money - but several "optional" tasks like lawn mowing or weeding are a way to earn a little pocket money.  Learning how to manage the discomfort of doing an unpleasant task is so valuable and it's a skill students use when they are tackling new and difficult academic content.  (If we are distance learning in the fall, being able to manage the discomfort of learning will be extremely important as I won't be right there to cheerlead and help kids get over that initial struggle.)

Goal Setting

On the radio this morning, the journalist mentioned that she had asked her children to choose an activity to get good at this summer - something to devote time and energy to mastering.  Her daughter was going to learn a language with DuoLingo.  I think this is a great idea.  A language? Drawing animé? Unicycling? Juggling? Nature sketching? Yo-yo? Cooking?  What would they like to be good at by the end of the summer?

Outings

Getting out and about is going to be important this summer.  We've been compiling outing ideas for years on the Out and About Blog.  It's searchable by "free" and "Northfield".  Some of the information might be dated (especially in light of Covid) so call ahead or check on-line.

Projects

Just as another resource - here's the Prairie Creek Makers blog.  I've been documenting the projects that we do along with web resources and ordering information.  It might be a good place to send a kid who is saying, "I'm bored..." Of course, it could lead to the situation I'm in today which is helping my daughter find screen and a blender so she can make paper.  (Whose idea was that!?! Oh, yeah.)

What's working for your household?  What resources are you looking for?  Add your thoughts and ideas and questions to the comments!  We're going to need all the help we can get these next few months!

 

"Like a dinner time conversation..." - Talking to Your Kids about Race

It was strange talking to the Herons about George Floyd last Tuesday. We've had hard conversations about race in the past year but we've always been together in the meeting area for them. These faces that are usually so immediate when we are in a conversation were isolated in their own squares.  Their looks of confusion or hurt or anger were obscured by the screen pixels.  But they asked questions.  Some shared what they knew.  Some shared historical connections. Many wondered how it could happen...again. I shared factual information (and where I was getting my information) and gently clarified some historical information.  But the conversation that would normally have taken on a life of its own was shorter and more circumspect that it would have been if we were in person.  And, as I said, it felt strange.

Afterward, I had a chance to ask a student how it had felt for her.  "Oh, fine.  It was just like one of our dinner time conversations."

I was relieved.  For her, at least, the connection and safe space that I had tried to create for the Herons had survived the transition to distance learning.  Our zoom room, miraculously, had the casual, secure feeling of her dinner table.  Her point was also that her family talks about race at the dinner table, which meant that ours was not the only conversation she would be having.

If conversations about race are not happening at your dinner table, they need to.

The conversation that the Herons had can't be the only one.  Race has to be a part of the conversation we are having all the time.  For families of color, this isn't an option.  It can't be for white families either. 

It's not comfortable. Kids ask questions in these conversations that I don't know the answers to.  Some are giant existential questions about good and evil and I can answer honestly,  "I don't know...I don't understand either."  Others are questions about history or law that I can answer honestly, "I don't know yet...but its' my job to find out."  And it is.  If a deep understanding of race relations was not a part of your education (and it certainly wansn't mine) then it's part of our work now as parents and teachers to learn.

We can't wait for the topic to come up - and the conversations can't just be reactive when something happens (athough those are important, too.)  We have to initiate and make these conversations the normal.  As I told the Herons one day after we looked at an article about kids in Baraboo who were doing the Nazi solute because a photographer told them to and "they didn't know any better" -- we need to know better.  And the only way they'll know better is to talk with them.

There are a lot of great resources out there.  Here is a radio interview with Jennifer Harvey, author of Raising White Kids about having conversations about race with children.  

Woah. They've Got This. The Power of Independence

My very favorite moment as a teacher is when the room is a maelstrom of varied, intense activity and I am utterly tangential to it.  The students know what they are about.  They have made their plans, they have learned their stuff.  They are on a mission.  Sure, they need me to fetch something from the basement or to spell something when Google Docs spell check has failed them.  Sure there are messes and missteps.  But, it's their show.

That's how I felt this week watching the honors and fourth grade projects.  These kids knew their topics so well they were able to transfer their work over into an all new medium in just four days.  And here's the thing - by in large, they did it without me.  Once they knew the tools, once they had mastered juggling multiple tabs, once they knew the keyboard controls...they were off.  They did far more than I was expecting and far more than I thought they were capable of.

And that's saying something. They are truly rising to the occasion in ways I couldn't imagine.

Parents are often surprised at conferences by what their child is doing and, more often, how they are able to talk about it. I know that kids present differently at home - school is their "work" after all.  It's not infrequent that a Heron will bring up at meeting, "My parents couldn't believe I could do this by myself" and the other kids and I will nod.  Home is often where we grow up last. But I feel like the Herons are rising in this unique moment and are working to be as independent as possible. 

In the "How I was helpful" area of their daily work record, kids list doing things without being asked, figuring out things on their own, not whining...And then I'm getting e-mails asking questions and suggesting things we can do.  Kids who say, "I set an alarm so I wouldn't miss our meeting."  And, most exciting for me, kids are starting to take off on projects - sending coded messages I haven't required, running with ideas and taking them to the next level, suggesting "our next theme" or, just recently, military jets, peep social media and Peep-azon delivery business for Village.

If this doesn't sound like your kid...perhaps it doesn't sound like your kid YET.  Can you make yourself less available?  One of my favorite ways to increase student independence is to look really busy or have a long line of others who are getting help first.  Try setting a time when you are available for help - 10 minutes in the morning or 10 minutes in the afternoon.

Ask 3 before me.  Remind your child that they have resources to figure things out.

1. Did they go to the morning explanation meeting?  If not, did they watch the explanation of the day on Herons at Home?
2. I'm in the Zoom Room all morning and much of the afternoon to explain things (and I'm really lonely...) have they checked with me there? 
3. Have they put a note in the stream for their peers to answer (there have been many tech issues that I don't know about until they are solved by the students.)

If your child is getting done too quickly or not taking advantage of extension work*, maybe let them be bored (but limit their options when they aren't doing school work during whatever your school hours are.) Setting up a household routine with clear rhythms can help your child feel more at ease and less inclined to rush.  Know that, if your child isn't doing the work I expect, I'll work with them first and if they need local support, I'll be in touch (usually via a cc on an e-mail I sent to them.)

But really - let's take a moment to marvel.  Our kids have just done the equivalent of getting a new job.  They have had to learn all new ways to work and learn.  And really, they're rocking it, all of them.  I couldn't be more proud.

*There are some really great things to beat boredom at our 4/5 Reading Room and 4/5 Math Circles.

 

Now that We've Settled In

At the end of three weeks, it feels like things have settled in.  I am so impressed with the Herons - they are approaching this with energy and good humor.  I love seeing them every day.  We have completed our first culminating event and we're ramping up for our on-line projects.  Thank you for your patience as I try new things out and put some systems in place.  Here is where we are right now:

• Morning Schedule Overview Meeting 8:05 - Live on Zoom (I turn the room on at 7:50 for hanging out and connecting).  A recording is available on Herons at Home by 9am.  I go over all of the work for the day and encourage kids to do optional work.  I basically sell the day of.learning.  I answer questions after I go over the schedule and send kids off with a wave and a smile.
• Zoom Room - I remain in the Zoom Room all morning to answer questions and, when I'm lucky, teach!  I love when kids come to me with things they are encountering on Kahn or in CommonLit that are new to them.  I often also do mini-lessons explaining elements of the day's work.  Times for mini-lessons are shared on the Daily Work Record and in the morning meeting.  They are optional unless noted.
• Daily attendance question and daily work. All Herons are engaging with these!  The attendance question helps me know who is here.  I (or someone from the office) track down kids I haven't heard from or seen on-line that day.  The Daily Work Record lays out all of the work for the day with links to each assignment.  Kids often keep this open on a tab as they work so they can check things off.  The Work Record also has the Zoom Room schedule and opportunities for optional work.  Work Records are returned to me by the end of the day and I comment on each one and return it.
• Daily 1:00 zoom meeting. This is the highlight of my day. I am keeping this mostly social. I give kids time to chat in breakout rooms, I share announcements and take questions, students share anything they wish, and we play a game.  Often, we have very silly dance parties.  It's our chance for the Herons to be Herons.
• Language Arts
• Read Aloud: I am reading Out of My Mind on FlipGrid.  Kids are posting comments.  I miss the spontaneous discussions that our read alouds often engendered and am looking for a way to capture some of that.
• CommonLit I assign articles from CommonLit about three days a week (we took a break this past week as we introduced Book Clubs).  Most of the articles are non-fiction and they have comprehension questions.
• Book Clubs We are currently in book clubs.  Students have assigned reading every week and they are recording vocabulary, authors' crafts and discussion questions as they read.  We are meeting on Friday morning to chat about the book and set the goal for the coming week.
• Writing Circles We have established a writing circle routine.  On weeks when we do writing circles, students choose a topic, write, record on FlipGrid and then share feedback.
• Independent Reading If your child has run out of books, let me know.  Many students have gotten free accounts with Epic which has many, many on-line books to choose from.
• Math
• CueThink I am assigning one problem of the week on CueThink.  I do a zoom mini-lesson walking through the problem each Monday for kids who need help getting started.
• Khan Academy Course mastery is working pretty well for most students.  It enables kids to move at their own pace through content - reviewing what they know by jumping to a unit test and learning new content by watching videos.  I encourage kids to come to the Zoom Room when they come across a new concept.  I would love to teach it to them "face to face."
• Theme - We just completed our Chindogu theme and have been working to transfer our projects on-line.  I am deep into the work of translating the Village experience to distance learning, too.  Phenology and forest school are continuing as well.

But wait, there's more!

• Optional Google Classrooms: All students are welcome to join 4/5 Math Circles classroom and the 4/5 Reading Room classroom. These are open to all 4/5s, and they are places for students to go who want more interaction and/or more challenge or engagement. I offer a lot of math choices in her room.  I lead a daily math exploration at 11am in our zoom room. The reading room is just getting started, and Cathy has asked kids who join to let her know what they are interested in reading and discussing.
• Hamlet - I sent an e-mail to kids seeking kids interested in doing a readers' theater of Hamlet every day.  This will be another opportunity for us to connect face to face in a very Heron-like way.
• Wonder-fulls - kids are doing mini-projects and posting them on FlipGrid.
• Serendipitous learning - one of the things that I miss the most is the spontaneous conversations and questions and explorations that we get to have in the classroom.  It's starting to happen more.  Kids are coming to the Zoom Room and connecting with others to do a math game or an escape room.  I'll continue to look for more chances for this to happen.

 This would be a great time to check in with your Heron and do some reflecting on how things are going. Are they feeling confident and independent? Which of the learning experiences being offered are they taking advantage of?

The Power of Place

I'm trying not to look at calendars - the amount of change in the past month is overwhelming.  It is humbling and exhausting to be trying to bring our Heron classroom online.  As a first year teacher, you often spend more hours planning than you do teaching and I've found that to be true again.  I am creating systems and content. In the absence of routine, I'm planning meticulously. I'm trying to invent new traditions.  I'm throwing a lot of things on the wall to see what sticks. I'm making a lot of mistakes.

One of the greatest challenges is bending these on-line tools to our school's progressive will.  They are tools that are designed for extrinsic motivation - grades, mostly.  They're analogous to reams of worksheets waiting for gold stars.  Some of them have really good content, but without being able to wander among the tables to provide encouragement, context and instruction, I find that often the students get frustrated or blast through things without giving it much thought just to be able to check it "done." (Today I had a student ask if watching a video or getting a hint would affect his score.)

It's not true that progressive education only uses "intrinsic" motivation.  I've only taught a few kids who were purely intrinsically motivated.  They were amazing, but they also never did anything unless they felt like it.  These creative maelstroms would listen to a carefully planned lesson and say, "Hmmm...I think I'm going to do this instead."  No amount of cajoling, praise, threat or puppy eyes would shift them (and grades weren't a much more successful motivator later on.)

So if most kids aren't purely intrinsically motivated at Prairie Creek, how are they motivated?  I've "had more than one visitor wonder why the kids are working so hard if they don't get grades (or candy.)  "How do you get them to do work when it doesn't 'count'?"

This past week has brought in to sharp focus the power of relationships.  Relationships live in the space between purely intrinsic and extrinsic motivation - indeed, they literally fill the spaces between the us. We build classrooms in which the drive to work comes from the respect we have for one another.  The expectation is that we are together to learn and create and play.  I model engagement and excitement in the classroom and, because of the relationships we've nurtured, the students want to do the same.  I don't use fake praise to motivate kids - but I definitely share in their excitement when they've done a good job, when they've worked really hard, when they've figured something out.

And now they are so very far away.  I rely on quick smiles, crinkled up noses, and furrowed brows to see how things are going and urge kids in to new challenges.  A well placed, "You've got this," can help a kid tackle the hardest things.  A smile and a, "is that your best work?" can engender a smirk and re-engagement.  And an excited "ooh! ooh! ooh!" can inspire a kid to go above and beyond.  All of those tools are gone (or at least mediated through a tiny screen). 

In an effort to make sure work and expectations are clear, I've created checklists which seem to shift the conversation to, "What do I have to do" instead of "what do I get to do."  Google Classroom, Khan, and CommonLit amplify the impact by measuring kids' progress in "turned ins"  I am conflicted.  Abandoning a checklist all together would put the burden on parents to provide an enriched environment in which students are choosing from among many options (but needing a lot of interaction and feedback.)  That's not a fair ask.  You'd be doing my job.

So I inch forward.  Tools like FlipGrid provide opportunities to share and celebrate work in a genuine way.  Students are beginning to use the technology creatively and are making new traditions every day. I'm hanging out in our Zoom Room for hours, encouraging students to stop by with questions or work shares (or life shares).  It's the closest I can come to being in a real classroom. The more chances I get to connect, the more I can use relationships to motivate learning and the deeper I hope the learning can be.  It won't be the same - but it can still be good.  I know it can because your kids are amazing.

Making Distance Learning Work in Your Home - Tips from some Old Hands

My colleague Molly started this document the first night we found out that distance learning was a possibility.  We know how hard it can be.  We're doing it, too.  We wanted to share some tips from our collective years of working with kids (both yours and our own.) Please feel free to share anything you think might be useful.  

First of All - You’ve Got This

The best thing we can do for children (and ourselves, really) is to provide routine and figure out what you can control or make certain when everything else is not certain. YOU CAN STAY SANE! Trust me! But it takes work upfront AND LOTS of consistency and parent self-care. These are not have-tos but they are suggestions that I as a parent of two younger school-aged children have learned help things go well over the years. 

This will Take Time - You can try things for a few days and then make changes.

We are all scrambling trying to fill spaces that may be here for a long time. No need to scramble! Slow down and prioritize. What is most important to work out in your family right now? How to all be together? Is it how to take personal responsibility? What is most important? Focus on that. Remember, we take six weeks at the beginning of the year to develop norms with each other so that we can function well as a group and individuals in a group space. You may not have six weeks but you can take four days! Know there will be challenges. Think progress, not perfection. 

Be Clear About Expectations

Talk to your children about what it will mean for the family to be home together for an extended period of time. Work together to create household agreements and link them to their classroom rules. Ask them: What are some of the rules you follow at school? Which of those rules can we use at home? Write the agreements down, make sure everyone agrees to them, sign them, and post them somewhere visible in your home. 

Let them know you will create regular routines and that EVERYONE'S needs will be met (parents included!) each day. Stress to them this is NOT homework, this is learning at home that their teacher has given them because they can’t be together. Remind them that their teacher and classmates look forward to connecting each day. And just like at school, their teacher expects them to do this work as well so they can learn and be ready for when we return to school.

 

Develop a Schedule  - Start now, before Distance Learning Begins 

This is probably the most important thing you can do.  Develop a schedule with your child that includes their interests/needs AND yours.

1. Keep it routine but not rigid. Let them know that each day they will be doing learning and playing at home - sometimes with a parent and sometimes independently. 
2. Set expectations for different times of the day and be firm about keeping them. Children will respond if you are clear and they are part of the decision making/understand the logic/reasoning behind it. Now is the time to be honest with our children and not placate their every want. 
3. Write the schedule up every day in the same place.  Have your child help with the schedule. Use a timer and clock throughout the day.
4. Make sure your schedule has a start time and an end time. Help your children to distinguish that even though they are working at home - maybe just like you - there will be time for work and time for play.
5. Work in time for you. If you and your parenting partner (if you have one) are working from home, work out a schedule that fits each of your working needs.  Communicate with your children which parent is available to help them and when. Also, work in some times in which they are totally independent and you are too. List those on your schedule so they can expect them. If one parent is always responsible, they may experience burn out. If only that parent is available to support the children, work in independent times for you while the children are occupied. 
6. Do similar things at the same time. Is there something you want or need to read? Schedule DEAR or independent reading time for your child at the same time.
7. TAKE BREAKS and schedule them throughout the day. We routinely take a break of some sort - outdoors for 20 minutes, snack for 10 minutes, bathroom/drink/movement around the school breaks, transition to a new activity.
8. Help your child make checklists or to-do lists that they can control. Write tasks that need to be completed (they can write their own or you can write them together) and give them check boxes so they can track their completion. 
9. Work household chores into the schedule of the day - Choose a room in the house you will tidy together, have them make snack for the family, teach them how to do their own laundry and put them in charge of washing their own clothing for a day, etc.
10. Keep bedtimes, wake up times, and meal times routine. 
11. If  parents and children are working in the same room, decide how and when your child can come to you with questions. For example, maybe you wear a special hat or something that indicates to the child that you are not able to be talked to at the moment? When the hat comes off, you are available. 

 

Working With Siblings

Are there siblings that can help in the household? Are there siblings that will need support? 

1. Be Clear About Expectations - Now is the time to meet with them and talk about how your family is a team and we will all work together to make these new changes successful for everyone in the family. Remind the children of the problem solving chart to use. 
2. Give Children Their Own Spaces - Make sure they know when are times they are expected to work together or apart.  Even if they are all in the same room, they should have a designated space to work.
3. Be Mindful of Child Care Asks - If an older sibling is “in-charge” for a portion of the day, be aware of the effort that can take.  Make a plan to help the older sibling feel extra appreciated at some point for their effort to support the family.

 

Choice Time

Choice time everyday! Maybe they spend some time engineering with legos. Maybe they spend some time drawing or coloring or playing a board game with you or other family members.  By making “choice time” a clear part of the schedule, you honor it and eliminate the need for children asking for it constantly.

Rest Time

Many camps establish a set “me time” during the day to give everyone (counselors included) a chance to unwind. This is another time you can set boundaries and expectations around a child’s access to you.  Quiet activities in a quiet space are key. This may be a great time to integrate music into the day.

Help Time

You don’t have to spend every moment they are “working” with your child. You might need to explain to them an activity or get them started. Once they can do it on their own, let them know you will be stepping away to do other things. Have them circle the things they were confused about and you can work on it together in a designated “I needed help” time.  Younger children might benefit from a visual reminder (an open sign, a silly hat) of when you are available to them.

 

Get Outside

Don’t forget to get outside - ALL OF YOU! This could be at the beginning of your “school day” to get some fresh air to start, in the middle of the day before lunch (like recess!), marking the end of your “work day”, OR as PE at any time during the day. 

1. PE ideas 

•  Ball skills - dribbling, throwing, catching
• Walking/running around the block. 
• Does your child know how to ride their bike? Could you use some fresh air and walk or run? Go together!
• Yoga! Cosmic Kids Yoga is a favorite of my kids https://www.youtube.com/user/CosmicKidsYoga
• https://app.gonoodle.com/ Has all sorts of activities related to movement. There are movements that enhance focus, calm, energy, etc. 

 

Incentives

Kids are motivated by a lot of things - including wanting to feel like they are a contributing member of your family and a valued member of their class.  Sometimes though, when the reward of a behavior is more abstract, an extrinsic incentive might be helpful. Give yourself permission. It’s O.K. - those of us who are parents sometimes use incentives in our homes, too.

Spark Joy (with compliments to Marie Kondo)

How can you incorporate different elements of joy, laughter, and fun together as a family?  Maybe it is baking a batch of cookies, watching your favorite family show or movie, or finding an old family album to look through? Perhaps you will make a scavenger hunt around the house. Or simply, just read with them. Find ways that you already know are successful in making people in your family laugh and joyful (including yourself!)

 

Decision Fatigue

You are likely exhausted by making so many decisions right now. Your children are too. See what you can take off their plate and what you can take off yours.   Take one day at a time and shift things as needed. Routines and expectations can be modified as needed - but you need to have someplace to start.

One Step at a Time

Of course, you might not have the capacity to do all  or any of the things on this list. So I stress again, TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN about expectations. Get feedback from them about what they are excited about/interested in while also being clear with them about what you will need to do as a parent and what your availability will be during certain times. They are much more understanding than you may realize. If you set yourselves up for success by taking the time, everyone will be happier.

The Herons at Home

The bus pulling away on Tuesday.

I kept a brave face on Tuesday until almost the end of the day.  But it was really hard to watch the bus pull away and know how fundamentally things could be changing in the weeks ahead.  As teachers, our days are filled with a thousand gestures - a smile, a nod, an eyebrow raise - and a thousand moments.  There are silly jokes.  Gasps of getting it.  And questions...so many questions from the mundane (Can I go to the bathroom?) to the profound (Where does an infinite universe expand in to?). There are so many touch points with each kid.  I collect so much data throughout the day. As the children come in to the room, I have a chance to greet each one and see how they're doing.  When we are in a lesson together, I can scan their faces and know (pretty accurately) who is still confused and who's getting it.

There are ways of doing many of these things on-line, of course, but I have spent the past twenty years honing my analog skills.  The past four days have been a humbling whirlwind of finding possible tools, assessing them and beginning to learn the ones that seem like they might work for us.  The foundation we've built is solid.  I know our students will be able to learn in the weeks ahead.  But I want to do more than get by.

These next days will be for developing new tools and traditions that will bring more of the experience of being in the classroom to the Herons at home.  How can we spark things together?  How can we continue to connect in a meaningful way?  How can we keep the Herons being Herons? How can I capture those moments and gestures and touch points? I welcome your ideas and expertise - especially if they're ideas for some of the technology the Herons have already used in the Google suite.  It won't be the same, but it can still be good.

We can do this.  I know we can.  Here we go.